Marriage has four stages:
1. “I’m going to change her!”
2. “She’s not going to change!”
3. “My God, she changed!”
4. “What I just said, sounded exactly like her!”
That’s how it goes, and that’s how it lasts, as I’ve lived and seen it over thirty-three years of it.
For me, there are reasons to stay married.
The foods gets better — other things too.
Staying together is the only hope of driving away the kids.
I stay warm at night.
And I desparately need vowed, ringed, committed and unconditional love.
In fact, we all need and crave crazy-devoted love, die-hard love, romantic, gift-giving, promise-making, always-there love.
We want someone who won’t leave the house after we fight, who will be first to the hospital room when it all goes wrong and who will be still sitting beside us holding our hand when we are old and wrinkled and done.
And most of us can have that, or some of that, if we will.
And if we can’t — we should get a cat, or a dog.
Animals are God’s antidote for an overdose of humans.
My other thoughts on marriage may be found at “The Modern Thought Proverbs of Randy Hasper,” www.modernproverbs.net Click on the category “Marriage.”
Thrive! 